I’ve been thinking lately about a good father daughter dance song for me and my dad. My dad and I have not always had the closest relationship, for several years I didn’t even speak to him. But we are close now, maybe not daddy’s little girl close, but we’re like friends, which I am really happy about. I’d like to find a father daughter dance song that reflects how our relationship really is, rather than trying to make it look like the I’ve-always-been-your-little-girl-and-we’ve-always-been-uber-close relationship that every daddy/daughter dance seems to want to portray. I don’t feel like there’s any reason to try to pretend my relationship with my dad is something it’s not. I like what my relationship with my dad is, I am grateful for it, and to try to pretend we have something else would be, in my eyes, a declaration of shame about what our relationship is.
So I’ve been doing a little of research into father/daughter dance songs, and I have to say that I am generally horrified at a couple of songs I see come up over and over and over again; Brown Eyed Girl by Van Morrison and Daughters by John Mayor.
Okay, Brown Eyed Girl is a kick-ass, fun song. I love it, who doesn’t love it? But it’s a song very clearly written for a romantic lover. I don’t know about any of you, but I don’t want to dance with my dad to the lyric “Making love in the green grass behind the stadium with you”. No thank you.
And then there’s Daughters. Has anyone ever actually listened to the lyrics to that song? Because what it’s about is a girl John Mayor dated once, and he really liked her, but she had emotional issues that prevented a real relationship due to her neglectful father. So yeah, if you want your father daughter dance to say to the world “I don’t really love my husband because I’m incapable of attachment because my dad was a dead beat” go ahead and dance to John Mayors Daughters.
John Mayor sucks anyhow.